Dear Wedding Couple
Congratulations, you’re getting married!
I understand you may feel overwhelmed with all the information you are getting from all the wedding articles, friends and family. So I thought I should create a wedding planning guide that lists the most important things you should think about right now. It’s purpose is for you to consider what things are important to you in your wedding.
If you slow down and think about it, it’s one of the most special moments of your life and the day is going to be incredible for so many reasons. You will be surrounded by all the people you who have been with you throughout your life all in one place. As a photographer, I want your wedding experience to be amazing, comfortable and personalised, rather than just going through the motion and traditions. I have been to many weddings and there were some things that I wish my couples had known prior to planning their wedding.
Personalise your wedding
Part of what makes your wedding unique is doing what you want to do and not feeling obliged to do something just because everyone else is doing it. If you feel that gatecrashing is not your thing, you can spend more time having an outdoor shoot with your bridesmaids. If comfort is important, consider wearing your favourite pair of shoes rather than heels. It’s different, but it’s who you are and part of the charm. Little things like this can add up to form a big picture.
Some other things that that showcases your aesthetics include venue, dress, decorations, flowers, your hair and makeup look.
For hotels, you can choose a toast, rather than a Chinese yum seng. You can also choose to have one walk in rather than two to spend more time with your guests.
A rather common regret I hear occasionally from previous brides was how they didn’t get to do things the way they wanted to. Remember, there are literally no rules at all. So please, do you.
Personalise your pictures
Your wedding may possibly be the only opportunity where all your closest friends and family gather together at one place. It also has the potential to show the unique individual that you are. It’s why the process of getting to know you before your wedding can be so important. When I get to understand who you are as an individual, as a couple, your family members, and the reason you are celebrating in the way that you are, the easier it is to create pictures that reflect your personality.
As an example, if you are from a single parent family and you want your mother to be more prominent in certain moments, it would be important if I learn this about you before the wedding.
There’s the simple idea that a photographer can just turn up at a wedding and start taking pictures, but there can also be a personalised way of doing things.
If you aren’t sure
If you are still lost on what your wedding day should look like, consider what pictures would you love to see a year after your wedding. Will it be gatecrashing, where the guys show their silly side? Or will it be at home, a quiet time with the family? Maybe exchanging letters just the two of you somewhere away from the crowd? What venue is ideal for you? Regardless, it’s always better to plan a relaxing and flexible itinerary where you get to soak in the experience, rather than spending a lot of time in the car rushing from one place to another.
Find time for yourselves
Find time just for the two of you for a few minutes to slow down and enjoy being married. It allows you to really take in everything that is happening around you. See all those people laughing together at the table? They are there because of you, and that’s amazing.
Make the most of the day
Your wedding is just one day. At the end of it, the dress will be kept, the food eaten, flowers gone, and decorations taken down. All you are left are the pictures and memories before you start something anew. It’s why creating a day that honouring your family and friends can be so important, because those feelings will translate to pictures.
This may be the hardest advice to accept, but you have planned your wedding as well as you can, and there is nothing you can do to change them on the day itself. There isn’t any point ruining your day if you fuss over the smallest details. At the end of the day, some things don’t matter as much as the relationships and people around you. Enjoy your day and go with the flow.
It’s important to choose a videographer whose sense of aesthetics and working style is similar to the photographer. In the past, I have worked with videographers whose visions differed greatly from mine, and that created a difference on the final photographs. When styles match however, we can complement each other’s work.
I find it easier to work with videographers who take an easygoing approach with minimal directing. The goal is to find honest and fleeting moments, and having a videographer with the same mindset is key.
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Part 2 will be available for the clients
Thanks for reading :)